Relationship Green Flag Score

How this green flag score works

Answer eight questions about how your partner actually treats you day to day. Each answer is worth points based on how healthy that pattern tends to be, and your total converts into a percentage score with a plain-language read on what it suggests.

What counts as a green flag, really

"Green flag" became shorthand for the opposite of a red flag — a small, everyday sign that a relationship is built on something solid. The catch is that green flags are usually less dramatic and easier to overlook than red flags, precisely because healthy behavior doesn't announce itself. A partner who simply respects a "no" without pushback, or who speaks well of you when you're not in the room, is showing you something real, even though neither of those moments feels like a headline.

This quiz leans on consistency rather than grand gestures, because that's usually where the real signal is. A partner capable of one kind gesture during a good week isn't the same as a partner who handles a bad day, a disagreement, and a mistake all with the same steadiness. The questions are built around those ordinary, repeatable moments — the ones that happen often enough to actually form a pattern.

A high score doesn't mean "perfect"

No relationship scores 100% because no one is consistently perfect, and treating this like a pass/fail test misses the point. A strong score here means the underlying patterns tend to lean healthy — it's a useful reflection prompt, not a certificate.

Why some couples score lower early on and higher later

Green flags tend to accumulate with time rather than appear all at once — a partner's consistency under stress, for instance, only becomes visible after there's actually been stress to respond to. It's genuinely normal for a newer relationship to score lower here not because anything is wrong, but because some of these patterns simply haven't had the chance to show themselves yet.

Retaking it over time

Green flags aren't static — a relationship that scores well now can drift, and one going through a rough patch can genuinely improve. There's no limit on how often you retake this, and doing so every few months tends to be more useful than treating a single result as permanent. What matters more than the number itself is whether the trend over time is moving in a direction you're comfortable with.